Mom Guilt is Real and it Sucks

 We have all seen the posts about "mom guilt" right? Honestly, it is a real thing and it does suck. I have so many thoughts that run through my mind when I lay down at the end of day. 

-  "I yelled too much today"
-  "We didn't do enough activities this afternoon"
-  "I didn't give them as much attention as I should."
-  "We didn't stick to our routine at all today"

 I say the phrase "In a little bit" way more than I care to admit. Knowing full well that in a little bit will never happen. It's so easy to get caught up in our own tasks only to leave us feeling guilty at the end of the day. 

 As mothers we're always worried we're messing up our kids, that's not going to change. Honestly, it is a legitimate fear. The entire bases of who they will be is forming right now and we are the ones molding them.  Maybe we need to really dial into that.

 It has never made me feel better when someone told me "It's okay, you're doing your best." or "All moms feel this way, it's normal" That doesn't comfort me at all. Actually it makes motherhood sound miserable. What comforts me is putting down my to do list for five seconds and enjoying a full day counteracting all of the crap I've let myself feel guilty about. At the end of that day I feel peace, comfort, and connected with my kids again. 

 We don't need a break from our children, we need a break from our to do list. There will always be more to get done, there won't always be these moments with our kids.  If we don't slow down every once in a while the guilt just stacks up day after day until we break, which ultimately only causes more guilt. 

 So stop letting people tell you it's okay to feel guilty all the time but not okay to push laundry off for a day.  Throw it in the hamper and go build a blanket fort with your kids. You'll thank yourself when you lay down at night thinking about all the memories you made rather than the ones you missed.